So, I wanted to give some advice but I'm too much of a coward to say it other places so it's going on tumblr haha.
If someone is trans and they say "I want this, personally, for me" it is not cool to say "no you don't" for any reason.
Even if you're just joking!
I know not everyone realizes how hurtful this can be so I'm just putting it into the world.
I was having a conversation today and someone said "If you get The Surgery, just don't get balls. They're so gross!"
And I just went. "I want them."
Only to have two people jump at the chance to tell me "No you don't, they're gross."
I just said "A lot of people feel that way. But I want them because it would be nice for me."
And I'm just. We were talking about bodily autonomy not ten minutes prior to this, talking about how people should have control over what they do, whether they want kids or not, etc.
Bodily autonomy and body shaming are very related issues. If you are going to tell someone "you shouldn't want this for your body, because I find it personally disgusting" then you are not an advocate for bodily autonomy.
Other reasons not to say this kind of thing to strangers include:
1) You're likely never having sex with me, so whether I have balls or not shouldn't matter to you.
2) Shaming half the population for having testicles is just fucking weird, and has made me once again acutely aware of how normalized it is to shame anyone with a penis for anything to do with their genitals.
3) Why is it so important that you feel the need to push for me to agree with you? Why does someone mentioning that they want something give you a pass to try and convince them not to? Especially as someone who claims to be pro-choice.
Also I don't care if you have balls or not. You are not the one who gets to tell me what I do or do not want.








